Q: How do I keep loving the thing that makes me happiest in life, even when everyone else judges me for it?
A: Being different and loving different things is something I’ve always struggled with myself. I think the most important thing is to remember why you’re doing that thing, because it makes you happy.
Not everything you do in life will please others, and that is okay!! Don’t let society’s definitions and labels affect you…ever. You should surround yourself with the people who love you for who you are no matter what.
Your family and real friends should be supportive because they’re the ones that love you most and should support you through it all. If they don’t support you, then they aren’t worth it, and remember that there isn’t anything wrong with cutting out the toxic people in your life.
Q: My group of friends are constantly putting me down and draining me emotionally. I want to find new friends, but I don’t know how to leave the ones I have now.
A: It sounds like your friends aren’t really friends to you at all, that you’re in a toxic friendship- and that’s not good for your mental health.
An important thing to remember is that the most beneficial thing in life is to make yourself happy before anyone else! It sounds like you don’t want to upset your ‘friends’; but if they were good friends, they wouldn’t be putting you down. Why worry about people who don’t show you the same courtesy?
Now, that being said, they may not be being the best of friends now and it probably is time to move on. But that doesn’t mean they weren’t good company, ever. Let them know how thankful you are for the time you spent together, and that you will always respect and be there for them if needed, but the best thing for you right now is to find new friends that don’t drain you emotionally.
It’s important to not leave things unsaid or have any hard feelings. That opens doors to bitterness, nostalgia, and possibly regret, which is a whole other story in itself.
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